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In hopes that it does, I'll continue.
I won't even begin to try to convince you or anyone else that I was always the perfect person to work with. Even I can admit that I was far from perfect.
HOWEVER I do believe I was a lot easier to work with than most others, and I even feel like I went above and beyond to help those who worked with me as much as possible.
I became incredibly close to several of my coworkers, one in particular. I trusted her entirely and had no reason not to.
Unfortunately, she made some decisions that were hurtful and caused damage to our friendship.
It's been two years since the hurt and damage. After much consideration, I closed my business and went work for another team.
I've been incredibly happy having truly learned what work friendships can and should be like, likewise, I have even created bonds outside of the workplace with my coworkers.
After my previous experience I worried that I'd never have workplace friendships that amounted to anything more than just workplace encounters.
That worry was pointless, thankfully!
We're a close nit group of women. Our ages range from young adult to nearly middle aged (me Ha!) and yet we all have so much in common and then not enough in common that we keep each other entertained!
Its never a boring day with us, that's an understatement!
We have so much fun and have created such a fun-spirited environment that even our clients have taken the notion to title themselves "honorary team members"!
Recently, that one friend in particular, who left a wake of hurt in her path in her decisions while working with me, decided to come to work in the same place as me.
Her decision wasn't based on the fact that I worked there, but on the fact that there was an opening and she needed a new space, again, in which to work.
It just happened to be within the business I work.
Admittedly, this made me nervous. Uncomfortable.
However, after serious thought and consideration I realized that I only feel this way because I choose to.
I'm capable of working with just about anyone and to be quite honest I think if I didn't care so much about her I wouldn't have been so hurt or so apprehensive about her reappearance in my work life.
I have to stop and give much credit to the women I work with as well.
The relationships that have been established between all of us women is strong and genuine. It's like a beehive. We all work together, supporting and encouraging and uplifting one another.
If one of the bees is disturbed the whole hive is disturbed and they all come together for the one bee.
Best Honey Bath Ever!
There is so much negativity in the work world, especially surrounding women, brought on by women, that its important to encourage and support an opportunity for reconciliation and closure.
I hope that my old friend will find her place within our group and come to know and recognize the value in these women that I have found and love.
I find myself feeling a sense of responsibility for her and to her, which is something I'm working through at the moment.
My first responsibility is to the women I work with to continue to emanate and emulate who we are and what we have built as far as friendships and relationships go.
Its with that responsibility that I approach each new day working within a broken friendship.
Proverbs 19: 18-21
19 A broken friendship is harder to deal with than a city that has high walls around it. And arguing is like the locked gates of a mighty city. 20
A man can fill his stomach with what he says. The words from his lips can satisfy him. 21
Your tongue has the power of life and death. Those who love to talk will eat the fruit of their words.
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